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Self love Fridays: trust the process 

We have all been there. We all have fantasized the end result. We have all sat there mid job, mid career choice, mid relationship comfort and thought “Why hasn’t this happened yet?”

We work towards a promotion, we work towards dating, we work towards getting engaged while dating, and we work towards marriage after we date and kid after we get married. But, do we ever just date? We have weight loss journeys, relationship goals, squad goals, career life, etc. Everything in society has forced us into the destination but never about the process. It’s never been about the journey.

I know, I’m not the first one to come up with “self love”. However, I know that self-love, is not a destination. It is a forever journey. And, with that forever, journey, I am going to talk about how to ‘trust the process’ in five simple steps.

  1. Let go.

This is by far the most important and hardest one. It’s incredibly hard for me to let go. I have, let’s say lightly, a control issue. I want to map out my key to happiness or I want to move forward. This has done me no good. I might have spared myself a few broken hearts, sleepless nights or terrible career choices. I also know that I neglected myself from happiness, love and awesome opportunities. Your life will navigate with you and what the Universe hears from you, you will receive.  As I am writing this, I received an email from The Secret. I don’t always read them but it’s funny how things always happen how they should.

Here is the insert: “Do you know that as you try and work out “how” your desire will come about, you are actually pushing your desire away from you? As you try and work out “how” you can make your desire happen, you are sending a huge message to the Universe that you do not have your desire. And if you’re not emanating the exact frequency of having your desire within you, how can the Universe possibly find your signal to deliver your desire?” So, let go of what you cannot control. 

2.  Manifest

That goes kind of with the above quote from my The Secret email. The old saying is all about manifestation, “dress for the job you want, not the job you have”. Now, this isn’t about not trusting the process, pushing or taking control. This is acting as if you are already deserving of something in which you are. Vision boards are one of the greatest ways to see your dreams manifest. Place your vision somewhere you can see, take time and energy into creating it and watch it manifests from the universe.

Request and Believe.

Ask and you shall receive. Be honest. Be Open. Be patient. After you have manifested, after you have let go, after you requested what you want from the universe, truly BELIEVE. In. every. Bone. In. Your. Body. BELIEVE. Believe that you are worth a promotion, believe that you are deserving of a healthy love, believe that you are beautiful, that you are worthy, that you are strong 

4. Accept

Accept, believe and request go hand in hand. Accept it all. Accept the criticism, accept the love you are deserving of, accept the beauty all around you, accept the warmth and spread the love.

5. Focus

Do not hyper analyze. Overanalyzing, overthinking, negative thoughts are all wavelengths telling the Universe that you do not want something. Stay focused. By staying focused, you will continue to accept, request and believe what you have become so deserving of. Focus on your goals to manifest them. Focus on positivity. Focus on the process. Focus on that some days are easier than others. Focus on each day…one day at a time.

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